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Are You Standing in the Way of Your Next Job?

Are you having a hard time finding your next job?


Are you going on interviews and not getting offers?


Are you at the point where you are ready to give up?


Well don’t! I know that the market is tight right now. And, with recent events, it is tougher to find a job today. There is no doubt about it. But if you are doing all the right things, and you are still unemployed, then looking inward too see how you may be contributing to your situation can give insight on how to find an answer.


And, hopefully a job!


So, How Can You Get Out Of Your Own Way? Follow These Easy Steps:


1.) Stop Blaming The World For Your Present Woes.


Yes, you lost your last job. And, I know that you are going through a rough time right now. But please keep in mind that the companies you are trying to interview with are not purposely trying to upset you if they are not getting back to you. They only have a certain number of jobs to fill, and they can only contact so many people. Not being able to start fresh everyday may have you come across as being bitter during the interviews that you do get. Your prospective employer may tell you that they understand what is happening to you, but your attitude will prevent them from hiring you.


2.) Stop Saying There Are No Jobs Available.


Your words are more powerful than you think. When you continually tell yourself and others that there are no jobs, your words make it true. Tell yourself every day that there is a perfect job waiting for you, and watch how miracles begin flowing into your life. (They will!)


3.) Stop Believing That You Have to Take Anything.


Yes, these are difficult times. You have payments to make and people who are counting on you. But taking a job just because you have no choice is worse than having no job at all. I am not saying to turn down a job that you need to pay your bills. I am saying to take a job because it fits. Believe it or not, you will be much better off mentally and physically searching for the right job than being in a job that is not right for you.


4.) Stop Asking for a Job.


People will be more apt to help you if you ask for their advice rather than making a direct request for a job. People like to contribute to one another and they feel bad if they cannot help you. If you ask them for their ideas and support, you will free them up to find ways to help you. Trust that this is a better approach than putting them on the spot.



5.) Stop Walking Into Interviews Unprepared.


It does not matter how many job interviews you have had that did not turn into offers. Every job interview is important. Be as ready as possible so you are able to shine. Remember that the person before and after you will be prepared. So, you might as well give it your best. And, if you really do not want to work there, you can always turn down the job after they give it to you.


6.) Stop Pushing People Away


Be yourself. Talk to a potential employer about how you can solve their problems, not how wonderful you are. Pushing too hard can be interpreted as being needy. And, nothing turns off an interviewer quicker than neediness. Be yourself and be confident! You have excellent skills and a lot to offer. Sooner or later, the right company will hire you.


7.) Stop Taking NO Personally.


The word NO is very difficult for most of us to hear because we immediately make it our fault that we are hearing it. But the truth is that people say no for all sorts of reasons, most of them having nothing to do with you. Maybe an interviewer is telling you no because the position was already filled, or was eliminated. Or, maybe they have decided to lower the requirements, and you are now over-qualified. Have NO motivate you, not de-motivate, and this will give you the strength to continue. And who knows? Just because they said no, does not mean that they do know someone who will say yes.


Deborah Brown-Volkman is the President of Surpass Your Dreams, Inc. a career and mentor coaching company that has been delivering a message of motivation, success, and personal fulfillment since 1998. We work with Senior Executives, Vice Presidents, and Managers, who are out of work or overworked. Deborah is the author of “Coach Yourself To A New Career: A Book To Discover Your Ultimate Profession,” that can be found on To Learn More Visit:, send an e-mail to or call (631) 874-2877.


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